kate.chem said:

If you are going to change something, change one thing and give it long enough to express itself.

This is exactly what I could not find anywhere else. Taking it to my next appointment.

Clinical perspective, offered as context rather than as advice. Worth answering the question that was asked rather than the one behind it. The narrow version usually has an answer; the broad version usually does not, and answering the broad one is how a thread stops being useful.

ingrid_STO said:

Worth answering the question that was asked rather than the one behind it.

This matches mine closely enough to be worth saying so out loud.

ingrid_STO said:

Worth answering the question that was asked rather than the one behind it.

There is a second half to this that has not been said yet. The distinction that resolves most of these threads is between what is true on average and what is true for one person. Both are real; they answer different questions and get quoted as if they were the same one.

Adding the numbers, since they settle part of this. For anyone reading later: the numbers in this thread are worth checking against a primary source before you act on them, including mine. Half the figures circulating in this community trace back to a secondary summary that dropped a qualifier.